A great commentary on transphobia…

Call them what they want to be called. You can do it, we do it all the time. Think of it this way: David Evans woke up one day and said “Everyone call me The Edge.” And everyone said, “Fine, The Edge, are we talking the noun or the verb?” And it’s not just that. Over the past 20 years. We’ve agreed to call this man, Puff Daddy, P. Diddy, just Diddy, and now Puff Daddy again, and most people don’t even like him.

Facebook’s names policy

The woman responsible for facebook’s gender options was kicked off facebook for using the name she had on her nametag at work.

Facebook is a vital tool for community, especially for those of us who are marginalised. It withholds our access to friends and support in order to enforce their policy, and in so doing we are faced with a stark choice between a name we do not identify with and do not want to use, or being disconnected. If we make the choice to stay we find ourselves increasingly recognised by other people by that forced name.

By forcing us to change our names on the site, Facebook changes the names we are known by in real life — whether we like it or not.

My name is only real enough to work at Facebook, not to use on the site Zip @ Medisum


No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right.

The judgment of the Court of Appeals for the Sixth Circuit is reversed.

— Justice Kennedy’s Majority Opinion

Two views of masculinity

Two views of masculinity:

This is something that I have been discussing with close friends and working on what this means for myself. As somebody who is considered an academic in some sense, a lot of figuring this out means I’ve been reading loads of research articles, books, and articles online to look at loads of different perspectives and see how that looks next to the many conversations that I have had with close friends and family. The academic portion of this journey has proved to be difficult as a consequence of the white history of the term “queer” and the lack of theorization of queer masculinity for Black women that is not solely described as one for Black lesbians. As a Black person whose gender identity is queer masculine, I have been wrestling with what this means to me and working on constructing a queer masculinity that is decolonized. And by that I mean depatriarchalized, a masculinity that isn’t defined by or nested in patriarchal domination.

Under Construction: Decolonized Queer Masculinity(ies), Shay @ Decolonize all the Things

So, so, so many people, especially musicians, have done this before me. I wear dresses on stage and to occasional fancy dress events because I do not enjoy neckties. I wear dresses to embrace femininity (adjective) but not to re-assign my gender to female (noun). I think that it is absurd to think that there is a rigidity to the identity of CIS and Heterosexual males and females — that for a man to wear a dress or for a woman to wear pants must mean that they are LGBTQ.

Is It Really That Strange For a Guy to Wear a Dress?, Miles Robbins @ Huffington Post